Yesterday I interviewed the third and final Surgen. Yes, interviewed. You see must people get three quotes when you do a home improvement well I believe you should also get 3 or 4 interviews when dealing with your body and life. As you may recall my first interview was with Dr. Kay from MD Anderson. Probably the most direct and heartless female surgen I’ve met. She is probably good at her surgery’s but no compassion. Then my second interview was with Dr. Chambers. Very Thorough and nice. Did take the time to review my file and scans. Discussed procedures available and outcome. Then yesterday I met Dr. Mamonous. I felt renewed and comfortable. He took over a hour with me and my husband. Pulled up my mammograms from 2013,2015,2018 and ultra sounds. Explain that triple negative cancers can start off as a hormonal breast cancer then turn into triple negative. He also explained, as they all did, that the difference between going for clear margins and a mastectomy is more cosmetic but only reduce the reoccurrence from 2-4% with mastectomy and 6-8% with clear margins. Prior to finding that I had a positive lymph node I was leaning more towards clear margins. But as this discovery has shown me that this cancer is aggressive, I too must be aggressive in my decision. He also stated that I should have never had the lumpectomy without another biopsy and MRI because of the size. But we can’t go backwards only forward. So the plan and yes plans can change is once I am done with chemo and heal I will have my surgery. As surgery scares me the most I know that it is something I must conquer in order to be cancer free.

If there is anything that comes of this, it is to know your body, push when you just don’t agree with the Dr.s and don’t go into surgery until you know what you have. Get the right treatment!

I continue to see the light even when the darkness comes. It is the grace of God that keeps me strong. My family and friends that are there for me. The cards, text messages and calls that all help me get through this journey. It’s not just my journey but all of ours together. I love you all!